LUBE 101: A Sex Coach's Recommendations
When it comes to comfort, pleasure, and confidence, a good lubricant is not optional. Over time I’ve tried a lot, and a handful have earned a permanent place in my rotation. This isn’t about hype, it’s about what works, why it works, and when I reach for each one.
HANX
If I’m heading to a play party, travelling or any situation where convenience matters, HANX is my go-to. The larger bottle size makes a real difference. No scrambling for refills, no tiny pumps mid moment. It’s reliable, easy to dispense, and designed with real use in mind rather than just aesthetics.
Why it stands out:
Clean, body safe formulations
Simple, no nonsense packaging
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The Long Term Staple: Lubido
This is where it all started for me. Lubido was the first lube I ever used, and over a decade later it’s still in my drawer. That kind of longevity says everything.
Why I keep coming back:
Consistent texture and performance
Familiar, dependable feel
Works well across different types of play
Curious About CBD: HOWL CBD Lube
CBD lubes have become more popular, and HOWL offers a blend that combines water based and silicone elements.
Potential benefits people report:
Increased relaxation in the area
Heightened sensitivity for some users
Longer lasting glide due to hybrid formula
It’s worth noting that research on topical CBD for intimate use is still developing. Some people love it, others feel no difference. It’s very individual, so think of this as something to explore rather than rely on.
More Than Just Lube: SYLK
SKLY sits somewhere between a lubricant and skincare. I’ve found it doubles nicely as a vulva moisturiser, especially when things feel a bit dry day to day.
Best for:
Ongoing hydration
Gentle, everyday use
People looking for a multipurpose product
Targeted Pleasure: Juicy Pure Lube
This one is designed with sensitivity and arousal in mind. It’s smooth, body friendly, and feels a bit more intentional than your standard lube.
Why it’s interesting:
Designed to complement natural arousal
Clean ingredient focus
Good option for those wanting something a bit more “enhancing”
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For Dryness Support: Vulva Balm
Not technically a lube, but worth mentioning. If you deal with dryness or irritation, a vulva balm can make a big difference outside of sex.
What it helps with:
Soothing dryness
Supporting skin barrier health
Everyday comfort
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Arousal Boosters: Natural Love Company
They offer both an arousal cream and a standard lube, and the pairing works well depending on what you’re after.
Arousal cream:
Designed to increase sensitivity
Often includes ingredients that create a warming or tingling effect
Lube:
Straightforward, body safe option
Complements the cream without overwhelming it
There isn’t one perfect lube, there’s just the right one for the moment. Sometimes that means a big, practical bottle you don’t have to think about. Sometimes it’s something more targeted, whether that’s hydration, sensitivity, or curiosity around new ingredients like CBD.
The best approach is to build a small lineup that covers different needs, so you’re never stuck making something work that doesn’t quite fit.